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Valerie Baber, adult actress, educator and student of several disciplines
seated here March 18, 2013.
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For many men, who know her name Valerie Baber is a porn star. Her lifetime interests and developmental process in psychology, travel, cultural criticism, literature, philosophy, human sexuality, media, sociology, photography offset something fundamental in the definition: porn star. In her life work she has become an Agent Provocateur. But, that is too limiting. I wrote her once saying: "You have made a compelling impact upon thousands of people beginning with first steps you took in your youth unlearning the patterns of a belief system. It is a commentary of a fundamental focus Life gives us: we can change from within!" Specifically, I was referring to her strict Christian and military upbringing that confined her sexual energies, and other creative possibilities into an unbearable aloneness.
Many do not escape this, but she did. The question: "How? How did she do it?" goes unanswered by millions, who seem content to die without becoming themselves, or Life has confined them to the narrow places. ~ Gregory E. Woods, Keeper of Stories 4/26/18
the Riddle in "HOW?"
"How is it that we can punish women who are paid by politicians yet allow freedom and forgiveness to the politicians who pay them? The irony of the situation is that if we allow Sptizer’s deep pockets to buy his way back into our homes and hearts, then it’s not young women he hired who are whores, it’s the people of New York." — Valerie Baber
Hi, there!
ReplyDeleteFirst, I want to thank you for giving me this space on your blog. I feel that you're a friendly spirit who appreciates my journey. I appreciate you for that and for the energy you've spent contemplating my words and life decisions. My heart smiles to know I touch others.
I also wanted to make a clarification about my professional history. I understand that, at one point, my site said that I worked in various facets of adult entertainment. I also understand there are some racy credits I have as an actress, but I would like to note the difference between porn and erotica.
I have never been a pornographic performer as I have never engaged in actual sexual acts on camera. Although erotica may look real, it features simulated love scenes in the same way sexy scenes are simulated in mainstream movies and TV.
To some, the difference between soft and hardcore may seem petty. Some may think that anything nude that implies sexual activity is porn. However, I feel that use of the title "porn star" incorrectly describes my experience and attaches even more of a stigma to my name than I already have (and am trying very hard to move away from).
I believe it necessary to clarify that I have never been a porn actress as I never crossed over into hardcore. I can't run from my time in B movies, but I do feel it important to distinguish the faux erotic scenes I did in B movies from the actual sex people engage in when people act in XXX movies.
I love that you are presenting this conversation. Thank you very much for believing that I have made a compelling impact on the world and acknowledging my struggles and my intent to try to help others. This is truly touching and I appreciate you, but just as I felt it important to tell the story that prompted you to create this post, I feel it's important to distance myself from anything that can make it even more difficult for me to live a normal life after erotica.
I hope this is received as a warm, friendly request and an invitation to email me at valerie@valeriebaber.com about anything that you would like to ask if you are considering another post in the future.
Thank you again for your space here.
Kindest regards,
Valerie