VIRGINITY: first a virgin

Virginity:


Have a bit of respect for this. The first time doesn't so much 'matter more' to a woman than to a man, but it matters differently. If you find yourself getting into bed with a girl who is a virgin on only a few hours or minutes acquaintance, your're going too fast for both of you. For a start, she's unlikely to be baby-proof: stay with the non-coital extras until you're both quite sure you know what you are doing. Cutting notches is irresponsible. Whatever you do be gentle and slow, as she's bound to be tense and nervous - even if she doesn't look it. 

Girls who are virgins will usually say (you can't tell reliably by inspection) and a loving man will ask - men don't usually advertise the fact. However experienced he seems, the idea should be in the back of the woman's mind that this could be the first time and he may need help: if you're critical or disappointed you could do real mischief. If you're both virgins, you are starting from scratch - don't hurry it.  

There's usually no physical problem over first intercourse if you're careful. The commonest is simply male over-eagerness or nervousness. If there are problems, get them dealt with at once. 

~ p. 92 from the best seller, 

The Joy of Sex: a gourmet guide to love making edited by Alex Comfort, M.B., Ph.D. 

demands upon a woman 

 Mary wasn't the first holy virgin. The mother of Jesus was not the first to have the story of immaculate conception. That being said let these words be the impetus for an intellectual journey and spiritual adventure to unravel what you have accepted as Biblical truth and look beyond the guise of originality Western Christianity imposes upon the senses at the same time espousing a lifetime of separation from Earth's energies, and a spiritual conquest of women's wombs, their sexuality with the props that support the illusion of power. An example of the illusion is as simple as the priest robes worn by Roman Catholic priests. The most horrific take over was the conquest of the womb by rape, and the assumptions of Western medicine that white men know more about birth than any woman's mid-wife. - Gregory E. Woods, Keeper of Stories 1.11.15

Rebecca Love on beach 

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