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Here Are Six Ways To Avoid A Dating Disaster
By Dr. Sinclair Grey III
Dating the wrong person can be a disaster. Think about it for a moment. You spend time with the person, you try to get to know them beyond the surface, and you even hope they are on the same relational page as you. Then all of sudden, you find yourself asking the question, ‘what was I thinking?’ ‘How could I have made such a huge mistake?’ Don’t feel bad because many people have gone through this scenario. What you thought and hoped for simply wasn’t. As the old adage goes, ‘you were dating their representative until the real person showed up.’
Let’s face it – no one likes to have their time wasted. No matter how young or old you are, the idea of playing games only to get disappointed later is not a good feeling. The beginning stages (usually within the first three to four months of any relationship) is exciting. You’re getting to know the other person and it seems great. Talking/texting on the phone for hours seems like everything is going well. In addition to that, going out and having so much in common can put a person in a state of euphoria. Check this out – just when all of this is happening, the antenna’s come down and the guards are lowered.
Many people make the mistake and overlook certain things they are important when companionship and conversation are the dominating factors. Because of that, too many people become victims of what I like to call ‘dating disaster.’
Here are a few suggestions I would like to share with you about avoiding ‘dating disasters.’
1. Ask the person about their goals in life. If they don’t have any goals (short-term and long-term) then they are not the person for you
2. Ask them about world affairs. A person who is not capable of discussing current events won’t be about to participate in conversations that are relevant to what’s happening in today’s world
3. Listen to what’s being said and not said. You don’t have to be analytical but you have to discern within your spirit what’s real and what’s hidden
4. Know what you’re looking for. In other words, have realistic expectations and never settle for settling. It doesn’t matter how they make you feel in the beginning, sustainability is the issue
5. Don’t trust them with your most prized possession – your body. When sex enters the equation, emotions can get twisted. Make sure the person can stimulate your intellect before they can stimulate your body. If all the person talks about is physical intimacy without a long-term commitment, that’s a red flag. With all of the STD’s being transmitted, why put yourself in harms way? Please understand this – sexual intimacy isn’t just physical; it’s spiritual
6. Don’t feel pressured by others to be in a relationship. Family and friends have a tendency to encourage others to be in a relationship, especially if they’re in one themselves. Understand this – you have to live for yourself not others
Just to reiterate, no one wants to experience a dating disaster. That’s why it’s best to take it slow in the beginning so that you get to know the person for who they are. No matter how long it takes, you deserve to be happy and if you have questions about a persons sincerity and authenticity, then you have every right to take your time. YOU ARE SPECIAL AND BECAUSE OF YOUR WORTH, IT’S BEST TO TAKE YOUR TIME.
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