Beautiful Black Love
Let me begin this post by saying I support ALL love. Whether gay, straight, African American dating White, or Chinese dating Mexicans. Love is pure, love is kind and it is the most beautiful form of emotion there is to experience and it is everyone’s right and privilege to share that with whomever they chose.
However, there is something that does bother me and it is African American men who say they only date Caucasian women. I wish I could delve into the minds of some of these men that I personally know, and those I see on television so that I can get a true understanding of the logic or motivation behind this. White women are undeniably beautiful and there is no surprise that over the years the percentage of interracial has dramatically increased.
But to hear a black man openly and proudly admit to only dating women of the opposite race is very disheartening and simply leaves a bad taste in my mouth. How can you be dismissive and simply disrespectful to such beautiful women who in a sense are a reflection of you? Was your mother not a beautiful, strong, African American woman? Are your sisters not beautiful, strong, African American women?
Has society created some sort of false perception for our young, black men that when you reach a certain level of success that you top it of with a trophy white woman at your side? If so, I am dissapointed in our men for being so weak minded and I am also embarrassed. Is it insecurities coming into play, self hatred, maybe something as simple as immaturity? I feel the need to once again express that I have no doubt in my mind the there are tons and tons of interracial relationship based on true genuine love. This is simply my curiosity mixed with some distaste being expressed.
So with all this being said, I have such admiration for strong ethnic couples. There is nothing more dynamic and beautiful than melanin topped with more melanin. The Obamas, Beyonce and Jay Z, Gabrielle Union with Dwayne Wade are all such breath taking couples and give me hope for our generation. And for those men who have counted all the beautiful brown women out of their dating pool all I have to say is, “ Deuces”, it’s definitely your loss and not ours. - Lady Rema 5.3.13
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There is something profound you've missed in your assessments, Lady Rema, about Black men who chose white women as their wives, or girlfriends when they are at the top of their games in their careers.
Without providing background there are two things the defensive thinking and reasoning within Black women and men on this subject consistently miss. First, more often than not Black women are trained to be mistresses not wives, and second, there is a level of excellence successful men need Black women centered in the elements of survival are unaware of, and incapable of providing. Third, the high and sensitive nature of the subtle, and obvious reinforcements, and the dynamic energies a man needs to birth the Sacred Dream he was born into are unavailable in women who base relationships upon conflict. Fourth, marriages and love based upon reciprocation have a higher demand for impeccability crude elements never grasp, hold and internalize into the fabric of their being.
At this level of being Black Americans usually falter and the conversations always turn back to the lower levels of understanding conflict and this, a major component, is sidestepped, not researched, and no effort is made to ascend into Knowing from diatribes. - Gregory E. Woods, Keeper of Stories 5.4.13
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